If your elderly mom or dad is unable to live independently, your options can include finding a private care facility for them, in-home care, or moving them in with you. If that move is cross-country, there are many factors to consider to make the transition a smooth one. Read on for a guide on what to do if you need to move your senior parent closer to you.
Decide How to Transport Them
Consider the comfort level of your parents when choosing how to move them across state lines. If choosing to fly them out, try to make it a direct flight for the easiest experience for them, especially if they are in a wheelchair or have other mobility issues.
Bring in Support Services
To provide the best experience, choose a companion who specializes in non-emergency medical transport services. This individual can make a long journey by air more comfortable for your parents and for you, as they can provide you with updates on travel and health-related details in addition to providing any required medical care.
Hire a Realtor
Be ready to step in and help your parent sell their home. They may not be mentally able to decide on a realtor themselves, perhaps because of strong emotions intertwined with the home or because of issues like dementia.
To help sell the home quicker, so that your parent can settle fully into your place, take the time to hire a real estate professional who understands your needs, who knows the market, and who knows how to negotiate to price effectively.
De-Clutter the Home
Like most people, your loved one likely has accumulated many possessions over the years, which may mean that their house is full of clutter.
It can seem overwhelming to have to take time off work to help your parent downsize their household. However, it’s much better to do so in person rather than leaving it all to them to do alone, especially if they are in physical pain.
As you work with them to downsize, be patient, as they likely have emotional attachments to many of the items. Pack the cherished pieces, such as family photo albums, and arrange to move them to the new residence.
Now that decisions have been made about what to pack, donate or sell off anything that won’t be kept. Use the money from any sales toward moving expenses.
The most popular ways to move belongings across state lines include truck rental companies, professional movers, and container services. Decide which one is best for your situation by weighing each option’s pros and cons. For example, experienced movers can pack, load, ship, and unpack the household items for you.
Ensure Everyone Has the Same Goals
Most importantly, do not assume that your parents and siblings all want the same thing. To align your goals, have honest discussions with them about the move. Taking the time now to make sure that everyone is on the same page will reduce stress.
If it’s not an emergency move, give your parents time to adjust to the idea of moving to a new place, leaving their friends, and all the other concomitant changes. Lastly, check-in with your parents at every stage of the move. Enjoy having them close to you to provide the best care possible and make new memories together.